Why Parents Thrill and Also Need to Chill

Jbird got several awards last night.  He got his senior pen, a pin for having been concert master at the winter performance, a pin for superior ranking in the ensemble competition, and a big prize - the orchestra award.  This is the first year for this award and it is determined by the teacher.  We are so thrilled for him.

He called us from the dance to say that some of the guys had decided to go to the opening of "Prince Caspian".  We told him that was fine with us.  I guess all in all, about fifteen kids and a couple of parents left the dance around ten and went to the movies together.  J gave it a B+.  He said it was slow going at the beginning - definitely darker and more violent than the first movie.  He did say there were some things that differed from the book.  However, he felt it added to the plot rather than detracted.  The Atlanta Journal gave it a "C" rating and I was discouraged.  When I see it myself, I'll let you know.

He had a good night and got home around 1 AM.  He had called us a couple of times during the evening to keep us updated with what awards he won, and then asked permission to go to the movies, and for something else to happen.  I'm not going to say what it was as someone may read this - however - I will say that my little inner alarm went off and I tried to get J to think about a choice. We gave him permission to do this "thing".  Unfortunately, one of his buds lied to J when J asked him about specifics concerning the situation.  J could have found himself in a horrible fix had anything gone wrong.  Thank you Lord - J was protected.

We had a good discussion about what happened and the "how should we have dealt with this situation".  Maybe more to the point - how to ask specific questions - cause his friend answered J's question - but not fully.  Had J known the full story - he would have said an immediate "no".  Neither Hubby nor I are upset with J - because he acted in good faith on what he was told.  I am so disappointed in the boy though.  I would not have expected this to come from him.  And none of us can figure why he lied.  Eventually, J will have to confront him - because the boy's actions could have effected many people.  I am praying to see if we (Hubby and/or I) should do or say something either to the boy himself or his parents.  As a parent I would want to know - and I doubt the boy told his parents what he did.  Unfortunately, this is part of the learning process of relationships and responsibility.

This morning Hubby worked at the middle school getting it ready for their 8th grade dance.  He's there now doing the concession stand/chaperone deal.  He came home for a few hours and mowed the lawn and then had to go back tonight.  I got the kitchen all cleaned up.  Did the floor on hands and knees.  Cleaned all the dog gear up.  Took apart and cleaned the microwave.  Partnered with Hubby to win a couple of games of Spades on Pogo. Fixed meals and now I'm ready to take a nap.  However, since it is after 9 PM - it might turn into bedtime.

May you be blessed.

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[Ulli]

Hi Lillium,
Helloooo--everything okay? Missing your blogging... and I bet you thought I fell off the earth...
We got a puppy this spring and I've been very busy with him, so I haven't been reading the blogs recently. Before that my mom died in January and I focused on being with her the last two weeks of her life, then seeing that Dad was doing okay. I was so very blessed that I could spend Mom's last weeks with her and help to usher her from this life into the next. God revealed Himself in amazing ways and I'll be eternally grateful. So, I'm just getting into a regular routine again.
I love the new look of your blog, which I saw for the first time today. Hope all is well, you're staying cool, continuing your amazing art, and keeping your men in line...LOL...
Be blessed, Ulli